Ever wondered where you get some straight, reliable information about Love, Sex and Relationships.

Relate with Gustos is a 3 part dinner series held every second Wednesday at Gustos Italiano in Ponsonby.  Join us for dinner and drinks and an interactive discussion about different aspects of relationships. The topics are centered around information that Relate clients have consistently described as relevant, interesting and life changing.

Each evening is a stand alone event that can be attended in any order.   There is time for discussion, questions and of course – dessert.

The three topics for the evenings are:

The Science of Relationships – this is largely a tribute to the work of relationship researcher Dr John Gottman whose claim to fame includes the ability to predict couples divorce with over 90% accuracy from analysing a 15 minute interaction between them.  Highlights from his Love Lab studies of over 3000 couples over 35 years and other research based findings about how to build lasting and happy relationships form the basis for discussion.

The Cycle of Relationship – this evening helps you map your journey in couple relationships and looks at some of the social and neuro relational impacts that shape the way we interact.  Expect to find out some interesting ideas about the western romantic ideals compared to culturally arranged marriages and some heartening and encouraging news for couples stuck in the power struggle phase of relationships.

The 5 Relationship Traps – this maps 5 very common sticking points for many relationships.  Expect to find at least 1 if not 2 or 3 of these operating in your life.  Learning how to escape these traps provides the possibility for more loving and fulfilling relationships.

These occur every alternate Wednesdays 7-8:30 pm
Venue: Gusto Italiano (Upstairs) 263 Ponsonby Road, Auckland
Cost: $20 pp – includes a glass of house wine/ beer/ soft drink

Parking is available in the streets surrounding.

We look forward to having you join us.  You can register and prepay online to secure your seat or turn up on the night.

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This intensive 20 hour training was developed by Steven with the Relate Team to rapidly prepare our interns to see clients.  Based on a solid and understandable model that teaches you learn how to track progress in therapy, with opportunity to experience a taste of each of the 5 models this course will whet your appetite for working with couples and give you handy tools you can use the following week with clients.

  • Are you interested in working more powerfully and effectively with couples?
  • Do you get overwhelmed wondering which approach would suit you best?
  • Would you like a chance to try the different approaches before committing to more intensive training?
  • Are you a coach, minister, doctor, social worker or other professional who works regularly with people in relationship distress? If so we have a special offer for you.*
  • Are you a complete novice wondering how to get started and if relationship work is for you?
  • Are you trained in a specialist model and wondering how to incorporate findings from other models?

If so this course is for you.  This intensive 3 day training will deepen your work as a couple’s therapist.  The IRT intensive is a summary of the in-house training delivered to the Relate Counselling Interns.  Our goal was to expose them broadly to the effective interventions available within Imago Relationship Therapy, Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method Therapy, Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and the Mindful Integrated Relationship Therapy Approach. Elements from Narrative Therapy, Crucible Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), micro expressions and body language are also considered.

Our goal was not to simply drown our interns in random information but to give them a coherent integrated model that enabled them to track moment by moment in therapy if the couple was making progress and how to keep things on track.  We also wanted them to have an overview model that enabled them to track the couples progression in therapy.

This model was developed by Steven Dromgool as an integration of his training in Imago, Gottman, EFT and PACT.  The progression model has been incorporated in Mindful Integrated Relationship Therapy (MIRT) the new evidence based approach to couples therapy training developed by Dr Monica Mansilla.  The overview model was developed in conjunction with the Relate senior team.  These two models massively simplify the process for newer therapists.  For more experienced clinicians trained in one or more models it enables them to effectively integrate their current strengths while considering contributions from other therapy models.  What this means is that clinicians are not simply applying random theories and interventions but are working intentionally and mindfully.

Highlights of the 20 hour training:

  • The cycle of relationship
  • A relational brain model
  • Research based predictors of divorce and happiness in relationships
  • An introduction to Mindful Integrated Relationship Therapy (MIRT) – the 1st evidence based couples therapy training model
  • An Integrated model to track your progress in therapy
  • Live demo’s contrasting the different approaches
  • Tracking micro-expressions
  • ​and more . . .


Really good. I got a lot out of it and it’s given me direction for follow-up training

Steven was extremely generous sharing his knowledge and skills and achieved this in an interesting combination of written information, utilising multimedia and personal stories. His many practical ways of being with certain scenarios was insightful, showed great care, intuitive and skillful. It was very worthwhile for me and was able to be utilised within a week within my own profession with a very positive outcome.

Fantastic course for therapists as well as anyone who wants to improve their relationships. So glad I took this course!


​It is our strong desire to support students by preparing them for working with couples from the outset of their work. To this end there is a substantive discount for full-time counselling students – to access this discount use the promo code <em><strong>StudentsIRT</strong></em>

It is our experience that this training is often very valuable for other professionals who work with couples – however the final day of training which is heavily practice and implementation oriented is less focused on non-clinicians. So there is the option to simply do just 2 days of training at a reduced rate – to access this lower rate use the promo code NonClinician – It should be noted that you are most welcome to all three days of training and other non clinicians have found the last day very engaging and insightful (a birds eye view into a clinical practice).

​All other participants can get $450 tickets, up to one month prior to the event start date, by using the promo code Earlybird

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