Category Archives: Relationships

The Demon Dance – or what to do when the love drugs wear off

I confess I was dragged to watch this movie and I muttered and grumbled and squirmed but this final scene made it all worth while.  The Story of Us tracks Pleiffer and Willis tearing themselves and their marriage apart in a slow, torturous and scarily familiar decline – and finally when things seem hopeless this […]

Why Tom was jumping on Oprah’s couch – the Love drug that makes you Crazy!

Most people will remember with some cringing embarrassment the scene where Tom Cruise newly smitten with Katie Holmes was jumping up and down on Oprah’s couch. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GNrB6qpmNwg] Cynics claim a Hollywood beat-up noting how out of character it seemed for the normally super-controlled Cruise. In fact there may be a simpler explanation – Cruise was […]

A surprising tool to get more of the love you really want?

I heard a cute joke the other day, a couple is hanging out together when the woman turns to the guy and says,  “Honey do you think I’m beautiful?” “Mmhmm,” the guy agrees.  “Do you feel lucky to be loved by me?” she continues, “Uh huh,” he nods.  “Oh darling,” she gushes, “you say the […]

It’s not about the nail or Why men always try to fix things – Part 2

This is part 2 in this post, last post I talked about how men and women tend to be socialised to use two different empathy networks (the mirror neuron network and the TPJ (or lets fix it) network). But the big question is what do you do about it. There is a handy technique that […]

It’s not about the Nail – Why men always want to fix things and what to do about it

This hilarious video highlights an important truth about empathy that can cause lots of problems in relationships or be a powerful source of connection. Fabulous Imago Therapist Pat Love in a recent talk commented on the fact that the brain actually has two empathy networks. The first is the one most woman are familiar with […]

Lessons from an old pot – or how to revive your Relationship

I recently discovered an old Potjie Kos pot (it’s also called a Dutch over and looks like a witches cauldron).  I had purchased this with great plans for fabulous slow cooked meals over an open fire at my rural section in the mountains of Erewhon.  Sadly the pot had spent a year by the shed […]

Arnold getting fresh with Maria – How can you love someone and still have an affair

Apparently Arnold Schwarzenegger was caught getting fresh with his estranged wife Maria Shriver – like most celebrity videos this is a bit of a beat up but they certainly looked companionable.  When news of Arnold’s long term affair came out many people had strong opinions suggesting that obviously Arnold could not love Maria and have […]

Being Flavor Flav’s Girlfriend – Living with the outrageous extrovert

There’s a funny story in the news about Rapper Flavour Flav’s latest antics where he grabbed a mic during a plane descent and started promoting his fried chicken takeout joint.  Apparently he then proceeded to lead the plane in chanting “Flavaaa Flaaaaaav.”   I read the story and wondered what it must be like being his girlfriend, […]