Category Archives: Imago Relationship Therapy

“I forgive you” it lasts longer than you know

I have the privilege to share something with you this week from one of my fabulous international Imago colleagues Nedra Fetterman.  This very touching story captures the ongoing and powerful legacy of forgiveness and captures intimately the graciousness and care that centres at the heart of true connection. Enjoy P.S.  you may need to click […]

Getting your man* to talk Part 2 – the secret permission

In our last post I talked about many woman prefer an Empathy first response where as men respond far better to a Validation response, “You make sense to me.”  However the first block that many women face is getting their partner to participate in a discussion at all. There is a secret permission that many […]

Getting your man to talk – How most woman get it wrong – Part 1

It’s not about the Nail is still one of my favourite short videos but I’d like to flip this topic on its head and talk about listening to men.  In my work as a marriage therapists who specialises in helping couples communicate it is pretty common for couples to enter the counselling room with an […]

The surprising relationship insights in Justin Timberlake’s mirrors song-part 2 working with complementarity

Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on a number of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships. Last week we looked at the concept of the lost self – this week we […]

The Surprising Relationship Insights in Justin Timberlake’s Mirrors Song – Part 1 – The Lost Self

Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on one of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships which is the concept of the lost self. In short the lost self is the part […]

Mind-blowing Sex – Unleashing your wild child

I’m really excited in this post to introduce you to a FABULOUS author and speaker Esther Perel.  Apart from being beautiful, brilliant and funny she also captured and articulated something amazingly well in this TED talk about how to use the child (limbic) brain to keep passion alive in long term relationships.  The talk is […]

Understanding the Child brain – Queen got it right, “I want it all, I want it NOW”

When it comes to understanding the Child brain Queen got it right.  Their hit song I want it all – I want it NOW sums up the governing ethos of the child brain [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pm4fQRl72k] The limbic (child) brain deals with the realm of emotion and physical sensory experience.  This part of the brain primarily develops […]

Understanding the Baby Brain Part 2 – Why children of alcoholics marry other alcoholics

This movie was something of a testimony to how difficult it is to make Meg Ryan look bad, it portrays Meg as a woman who nearly destroyed her movie with alcohol and runs some close parallels to the real life struggles Meg experienced in her marriage to Dennis Quaid.  The questions is often asked why […]

Understanding the Baby Brain – Symbiosis and Eternity

This gripping video reveals the power and importance of connection – it dramatically illustrates how vital emotional connection is to the infant. Watch the time delay from the still face till the infant notices . . . [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0] As  you enter the world of an infant it is crucial to understand how vulnerable and dependent […]

Why do I always fall for Jerks – Is there hope for Rihanna?

Rihanna is fabulously talented, beautiful, wealthy and desired.  At one level it seems hard to understand why she would choose to be in a relationship with an aggressive and violent man like Chris Brown and then to return to him following repeated domestic violence. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ8aN1-pM] In fact her situation is  far more common than we […]