Category Archives: Communication

Why do I always fall for Jerks – Is there hope for Rihanna?

Rihanna is fabulously talented, beautiful, wealthy and desired.  At one level it seems hard to understand why she would choose to be in a relationship with an aggressive and violent man like Chris Brown and then to return to him following repeated domestic violence. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ8aN1-pM] In fact her situation is  far more common than we […]

The Demon Dance – or what to do when the love drugs wear off

I confess I was dragged to watch this movie and I muttered and grumbled and squirmed but this final scene made it all worth while.  The Story of Us tracks Pleiffer and Willis tearing themselves and their marriage apart in a slow, torturous and scarily familiar decline – and finally when things seem hopeless this […]

A surprising tool to get more of the love you really want?

I heard a cute joke the other day, a couple is hanging out together when the woman turns to the guy and says,  “Honey do you think I’m beautiful?” “Mmhmm,” the guy agrees.  “Do you feel lucky to be loved by me?” she continues, “Uh huh,” he nods.  “Oh darling,” she gushes, “you say the […]

It’s not about the nail or Why men always try to fix things – Part 2

This is part 2 in this post, last post I talked about how men and women tend to be socialised to use two different empathy networks (the mirror neuron network and the TPJ (or lets fix it) network). But the big question is what do you do about it. There is a handy technique that […]