For many people jealousy is the green eyed monster to be avoided at any cost. But in many cultures and traditions jealousy is viewed positively as a protective shield particularly around relationships. So how do you tell you tell the difference? Protective jealousy recognises that relationships have vulnerabilities – a staff christmas party puts a […]
When it comes to affairs one of the most prominent experts in this area is Esther Perel. In this fascinating TED talk Esther compacts a wealth of knowledge. If you are impacted by an affair – start here.
I have the privilege to share something with you this week from one of my fabulous international Imago colleagues Nedra Fetterman. This very touching story captures the ongoing and powerful legacy of forgiveness and captures intimately the graciousness and care that centres at the heart of true connection.
In our last post I talked about many woman prefer an Empathy first response where as men respond far better to a Validation response, “You make sense to me.” However the first block that many women face is getting their partner to participate in a discussion at all. There is a secret permission that many […]
It’s not about the Nail is still one of my favourite short videos but I’d like to flip this topic on its head and talk about listening to men. In my work as a marriage therapists who specialises in helping couples communicate it is pretty common for couples to enter the counselling room with an […]
Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on a number of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships. Last week we looked at the concept of the lost self – this week we […]
Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on one of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships which is the concept of the lost self. In short the lost self is the part […]
I’m really excited in this post to introduce you to a FABULOUS author and speaker Esther Perel. Apart from being beautiful, brilliant and funny she also captured and articulated something amazingly well in this TED talk about how to use the child (limbic) brain to keep passion alive in long term relationships. The talk is […]
This movie was something of a testimony to how difficult it is to make Meg Ryan look bad, it portrays Meg as a woman who nearly destroyed her movie with alcohol and runs some close parallels to the real life struggles Meg experienced in her marriage to Dennis Quaid. The questions is often asked why […]
This gripping video reveals the power and importance of connection – it dramatically illustrates how vital emotional connection is to the infant. Watch the time delay from the still face till the infant notices . . . [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0] As you enter the world of an infant it is crucial to understand how vulnerable and dependent […]