For many people jealousy is the green eyed monster to be avoided at any cost. But in many cultures and traditions jealousy is viewed positively as a protective shield particularly around relationships. So how do you tell you tell the difference? Protective jealousy recognises that relationships have vulnerabilities – a staff christmas party puts a […]
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Nov
Nov
One of our primary needs in a relationship is to feel safe with our partner. A relationship where we cannot relax our guard and be ourselves is a relationship that will be desperately unhappy and will probably not survive. Stan Tatkin, who developed PACT (the psycho-biological approach to couples therapy talks about a secure functioning […]
16
Oct
Oct
One of my favorite speakers, researcher-story teller Brene Brown talks about how trust is built in small ways over time – Enjoy
24
Sep
Sep
Sex and Intimacy Coach Amy Color delivers this hilarious, engaging and very practical Ted Talk at Vancouver TEDx. Discover how to increase passion, intimacy (in-too-me-see) and play into your relationship.
17
Sep
Sep
When it comes to affairs one of the most prominent experts in this area is Esther Perel. In this fascinating TED talk Esther compacts a wealth of knowledge. If you are impacted by an affair – start here.
Baby Brain, child brain, Communication, empathy, Imago Relationship Therapy, Parenting, Relationships, Triune brain model, Whole Brain Communication
“I forgive you” it lasts longer than you know
14
Apr
Apr
I have the privilege to share something with you this week from one of my fabulous international Imago colleagues Nedra Fetterman. This very touching story captures the ongoing and powerful legacy of forgiveness and captures intimately the graciousness and care that centres at the heart of true connection.
Appreciation, Baby Brain, child brain, Communication, Imago Relationship Therapy, Relationships, Uncategorized, Whole Brain Communication
Getting your man* to talk Part 2 – the secret permission
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Mar
Mar
In our last post I talked about many woman prefer an Empathy first response where as men respond far better to a Validation response, “You make sense to me.” However the first block that many women face is getting their partner to participate in a discussion at all. There is a secret permission that many […]
Communication, empathy, Imago Relationship Therapy, Triune brain model, Uncategorized, Whole Brain Communication
Getting your man to talk – How most woman get it wrong – Part 1
03
Mar
Mar
It’s not about the Nail is still one of my favourite short videos but I’d like to flip this topic on its head and talk about listening to men. In my work as a marriage therapists who specialises in helping couples communicate it is pretty common for couples to enter the counselling room with an […]
Baby Brain, Brain Training, child brain, Communication, empathy, Imago Relationship Therapy, Relationships, Triune brain model, Whole Brain Communication
The surprising relationship insights in Justin Timberlake’s mirrors song-part 2 working with complementarity
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Feb
Feb
Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on a number of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships. Last week we looked at the concept of the lost self – this week we […]
Baby Brain, child brain, Communication, empathy, Imago Relationship Therapy, Passion, Relationships, Triune brain model, Whole Brain Communication
The Surprising Relationship Insights in Justin Timberlake’s Mirrors Song – Part 1 – The Lost Self
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Feb
Feb
Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on one of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships which is the concept of the lost self. In short the lost self is the part […]