Monthly Archives: November 2018

Jealousy – is it really the Green Eyed Monster

For many people jealousy is the green eyed monster to be avoided at any cost.  But in many cultures and traditions jealousy is viewed positively as a protective shield particularly around relationships.  So how do you tell you tell the difference?  Protective jealousy recognises that relationships have vulnerabilities – a staff christmas party puts a […]

Building a Safe Relationship

Secure Relationships

One of our primary needs in a relationship is to feel safe with our partner.  A relationship where we cannot relax our guard and be ourselves is a relationship that will be desperately unhappy and will probably not survive.  Stan Tatkin, who developed PACT (the psycho-biological approach to couples therapy talks about a secure functioning […]